tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904225216223011708.post816470581647360301..comments2023-05-26T05:54:34.770-07:00Comments on Therapista: "He Said What About Your Mom?" Trying to Help Clients Keep Perspective When I don't Have AnyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14266127396351211649noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904225216223011708.post-62329404807448769512011-08-12T19:25:54.122-07:002011-08-12T19:25:54.122-07:00This brings up the importance of the Responsive Cl...This brings up the importance of the Responsive Classroom conference I went to this Summer. I know I only teach Second Grade and they are easy at that age but if classroom were places where social intereaction and learning went hand and hand. Days were begun with meetings were everyone is validated,and community is begun each day by sharing and a fun activity. Where classroom rules are created to care for each other and worked out all year long through classroom and private meetings. I think there could be some places where things are different than it is at home and where new beginnings happen. I am working toward that end this year.Carolannbennett1https://www.blogger.com/profile/10587274721645087935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904225216223011708.post-48619543265397647032011-08-08T14:07:53.023-07:002011-08-08T14:07:53.023-07:00We can blame a lot of different people- the mom th...We can blame a lot of different people- the mom that drank or did drugs while pregnant with that poor kid so he has permanent social impairments, the older brothers of the kid who punched him because they modeled aggression against weaker people as a way to solve problems, etc, but the question of fault is probably not a "helpful" question. A more helpful question is, what kind of alternatives are provided for the kids so if they are seeking a way out, they can do so in a socially appropriate, non-shaming way. There will always be a few scrawny, odd ducklings in the bunch, (or more than a few depending on how much lead paint, incest, or radiation is around!), but we have to provide outs for both kids to save face and find an alternative. Not an easy job, to be sure.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14266127396351211649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904225216223011708.post-20879563212857347912011-08-08T04:59:42.653-07:002011-08-08T04:59:42.653-07:00Very true, whose fault is it?Very true, whose fault is it?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07957545161716269528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904225216223011708.post-28014842171400684592011-08-04T09:24:27.413-07:002011-08-04T09:24:27.413-07:00This is a interesting issue. I see this at school,...This is a interesting issue. I see this at school, too. Technically, you can't hit someone or even fight back if they hit you, but sometimes, my kids have it coming. The "normal" kids try all sorts of things to make the "weird" kid cease and desist. <br /><br />They follow this protocol fairly closely. <br />1. Shun the weird kid when they disrupt you having lunch with your friends. Use body language to say, "Go away." <br />2. Verbally tell the weird kid to go away.<br />3. Verbally tell the weird kid that you will hit him if he does not go away. <br />4. Call the weird kid names. <br />5. Punch the weird kid in the face. <br />6. Get expelled. <br /><br />Whose fault is this situation?Sandra Rose Hugheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04560149963030956194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4904225216223011708.post-16366381217241957852011-07-30T08:07:34.423-07:002011-07-30T08:07:34.423-07:00Sometimes it's hard to validate the feelings w...Sometimes it's hard to validate the feelings without condoning the behavior, but it sounds like you did it. Because of the way God created me and the gift of mercy, I can usually understand why my clients (and their families) do what they do and feel the way they feel. It makes sense to me, and I'm often sure that if I were in their circumstances, I very well might feel and act exactly the way they do. <br /><br />I've been training to be a DBT therapist, and the concept of balancing acceptance and change really resonates with me. I want to help my clients accept who they are, their feelings, and where they are at this moment, without judgment, while also encouraging and teaching them how to make the changes they need to make their lives better.<br /><br />I really believe that is how Christ interacted with people, and how God sees us. He loves us and accepts us exactly where we are, there is no judgment and we are not seen as "bad" people to Him; however, He wants us to have more and better lives and closer relationship with Him, so some change in necessary. But, even if we never make the changes, He still loves and accepts us. That's what I try to communicate to my clients because it provides an environment and relationship that allows healing to happen...even if they are resistant at the time.<br /><br />Because I work on an inpatient unit, I rarely see "the end of the story," but I hope that I can launch my clients onto their healing journey and give them some hope that things can get better, and that it is worth staying alive to see if thing do improve.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06736667837596067382noreply@blogger.com